ARE THE FAIRY TALES OR, BETTER, “FABLE-TALES/ FIABAVOLE“

ONLY FOR CHILDREN?

The fairy tale (FIABA for italian) is the parallel dimension, the one in which dwell, walk, think, suffer, rejoice and, in other words, live human alter egos and, therefore, it does not necessarily have to avoid references to geographical places and the notions related to them. It is a reality on the edge of “the“ reality that falls under the human senses, but it is no less real, because, if the theory identifying individual reality not in the external one but in the one living in the mind and subconscious were true, the world of fairy tales would be none other than the real world of those who carry fairy tales in their minds and hearts. Fairy tales, therefore, are not only the prerogative of childhood but of Pascoli’s child, the one who lives in every human being. This is not at all strange but logical, however, and it is all the more so for those who know, love and help raise children in sacrosanct respect for their dignity as complete human beings, who have a small body but an ancient soul. It is the bodies and minds that must grow and learn the strategies of psychic, physical and spiritual health (that is, of a healthy diet without dangerous imbalances, of “sine qua non” serenity, made of that respect and that balance apt to develop an individual autonomy aware of that of others, which is the basis of life and of the ability to soar and be moved in the face of beauty). The souls born complete and inhabited by the supernatural spark, are however in tune with the health of the body and mind. Children are the bearers of an instinctive acumen and an intact primordial wisdom not yet devastated by the contorted media, social, and commercial cosmetics. They know how to evaluate, judge, weigh and catalog people and events, even though, endowed with innocence, they are defenseless, weak and even plagiable. Children are the glory of the earth, the pride of human beings, the greatest and most magnificent value adults have ever been concerned with. They are the holders of survival and the future. They are the most beautiful thing God has given to men. They are the salvation and condemnation of humanity (which must think very well about what – how – when – how much – where it gives – does – tells children)… Divine Providence places a sign in blinding print on each child: “Handle with responsibility and sine fine love, because you will account to God for it”. Children are neither parents’ nor anyone’s property: they are complete creatures necessary for the world and as such they must be loved, respected, revered and trained. It is children who love fairy tales; fairy tales and children are closely linked to each other, so those who love children cannot help but love fairy tales and cultivate younglings. Only for them, really? Didn’t we say that bodies grow and souls are ancient? If so, every adult has the same soul he used to have as a child within him. Every adult, therefore, is a child with a grown-up body, a child whom fairy tales cannot displease or, perhaps, a child who has forgotten fairy tales and who can, at any moment, return to love them, because they are nothing more than a ray of sunlight shot in a gentle jet where too rigid outlines cast shadows that are not very permeable to light. Mothers, fathers, teachers, adults all, teenagers and children, love fairy tales, read them, write them, spread them, shoot your rays of sunlight with a gentle jet on all the shadowed areas awaiting that little sunlight that shall be enough to warm them … Good fable / good life!

From Preface to the book Il regno delle magiche aurore (The kingdom of magical auroras) – Dudu & Dudina

THE ADULT MUST BEHAVE WITH

THE CHILD AS HE WOULD DO

WITH THE SON OF A KING

ENTRUSTED TO HIS CARE,

because this is what children are: sons and daughters of God, the greatest of kings / the One to whom every parent and every adult interacting with children will be accountable for his actions.

And… sure as birth and death

the wrongs, the abuses, the crimes

perpetrated against children

are the worst, the most heinous, the most hateful, the most unforgivable

and horrible,

because what hurts INNOCENCE

stains with horror the blinding purity of what is divine.

THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF THE ADULT

  Children are miniature adults. Those who take care of them, in any capacity, cannot and must not ignore this awareness. This means that they cannot and must not make use of their superiority as adults but must confront the child from mind to mind, from heart to heart, from intelligence to intelligence, from sensitivity to sensitivity, with caution and with extreme respect. It means that they must respect the child’s individual sovereignty and must not bully by using their clearly and disproportionately superior physical strength.

The fair adult is consistent but also flexible, pliable and accommodating as well as balanced and does not do as he pleases just because he has complete “power”, ranging from physical strength to economic and social possibilities. He postpones, when the child’s behavior exceeds the “guard levels”, and uses diversionary and never invasive and excessive tactics and does not hide his rigidity behind the excuse that the child “should not be cheated” and “must” be reasonable. The fair adult, in whatever capacity he takes care of children, always remembers that the child is not reasonable, even if he behaves as if he were, he is not so by his right of age, he must not be, he has the right to be child and to be treated as such, has, in other words, the right to throw a tantrum.

  The balanced adult, whether real or described in fairy tales, does not “break” the child, deciding for him and making him the violence of compulsion, just because he has the strength and all the possibilities, but gives him the chance of reaching by himself the right conclusion and, within the right protective levees, the minutes, hours, days, months and years necessary to widen the window through which his little eyes see the world.

  Avoiding to exert his superiority with the use of force aggravated by apparent indifference and condescension and basing his corrective interventions on consistency and respect, the adult prevents the emergence of sensational and violent protest reactions in the child. Such reactions are quite natural, since inflicting a burning defeat on him with a smiling and “understanding” attitude would add insult to violence, the fateful drop that would increase anger for the protest not acknowledged and for the wrong suffered, for the right to clarification disregarded and ridiculed and, last but not least, for the cuddles that the child likes and that, in any case, cannot prevent the repressed anger from becoming a scar of the subconscious and from imprinting inevitable turning points on its temper. There are mistakes the adult probably commits unknowingly which could have aggravating circumstances without justification and indelibly mortify the child, as in the case in which, for example, he is allowed to eat all the crap possible everyday and then, suddenly, in a particular place and circumstance, the ice-cream he’s been offered is snatched from his hands at the wrong moment, making a fool of him just as he shows off his charm in the presence of strangers.

THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF THOSE WHO WRITE BOOKS FOR CHILDREN

The mortifications inflicted on minors “live” are, in any case, recognized and considered reprehensible, undesirable and even punishable, as opposed to the real violence perpetrated on the psyche of children by certain self-styled “writers” of harmful and dangerous material to all effects. The fact that the psychic violence caused by certain publications improperly called “fairy tales” or books for children and adolescents go unnoticed and unpunished is of an unacceptable gravity. Who writes for the developmental age has a responsibility multiplied by the number of minors who could use it, since, through the messages inherent in the words and behavior of the characters, it affects the child’s psyche dangerously, almost as much as the behavior of those who live in the vital sphere of the child himself.

The writer for childhood, pre-adolescence and adolescence cannot and must not use the “force” of the written word in a disproportionate and harmful way, just as parents and educators cannot and must not impose themselves using their physical strength. He has to worry about giving them age-appropriate messages or he will inflict unconscious violence on the forming souls, just like the adult who does not take into account the screams, protests and extreme rebellion of minors and imposes his will on them by lifting them by force and asserting his superiority with gestures of very serious abuse. The wrong messages, from whatever source they come, do not pass in vain in the psyche of the developmental age and leave terrible trails that no one knows where they can be embedded and at what stages of life they can explode, just like time bombs.

The writer of fairy tales and children’s books reaches the psyche thirsty for knowledge preparatory to growth from a position of privilege, creating models of life, alter egos that can interact dangerously with the evolving mindset. He must, therefore, be aware of this responsibility and, just like the adult who lives in direct contact with minors, he cannot and must not “educate” with harmful examples.

The fairy tale and books for minors in general are the parallel dimension, the one in which they live, walk, think, suffer, rejoice and, in other words, they live the alter egos of children, therefore, they must propose contents that are lifeblood for the psyche. in training and never, ever, sadistic, twisted or, worse, gory characters and events.

THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF INSTITUTIONS AND PUBLISHING

Institutions (including schools, libraries, oratories, summer camps and the family), which are called to watch over the psychic and mental safety of minors, as well as physical ones, must make a strict selection on editorial material of print, video, audio intended for them. Both general and sector publishing should review the unscrupulous criteria with no moral rules or limits of any kind that have invaded it since profit took over what remained of the guiding pillars nourished by still healthy pioneer roots. They should watch over the editorial material intended for all children and minors and, if he really cannot help but avoid the one created by psychopathic individuals, who invent characters sadistic towards animals and living creatures, albeit imaginary or with terrible inclinations, they should divert them to the right “containers” and prevent them from dirtying and tearing the sacrosanct innocence that belongs to childhood and the serene mental and psychic spaces in which pre-adolescence and adolescence deserve to see youth blossom. Those who, instead of providing the nurseries of the future with the safe and reassuring elegy in which to carry out the reconnaissance of their global growth, disturb the child’s psyche passing off scary ignominies as fairy tales and undermining the joyful straightness of the adolescent mind with disgraceful publications, hurt mankind in its most defenseless and tender part and cripple the buds of the future.

LET’S WELCOME FAIRY TALES, THE RIGHT ONES,

aliases: let’s welcome publications suitable for minors of all planetary races,

publications that transform the world

from a place that kills dreams to a place that breeds them,

grows them and hosts them in hearts,

 in homes, in cities and

 in small and large nations, near and far.

  (From The kingdom of magical auroras, DUDU & DUDINA -afterword)